What Makes a Good Relationship?
Updated: Dec 17, 2022
I saw something this morning that prompted this post. 🤔 I’m also going to show you the nerd in me. 🤣🤣🤣 I call it "nerdy" when I look up words but really it makes me smarter. I've got the IQ test to prove it. 😉
Relationship: An emotional or other connection between people. (Collins Dictionary). Comes from 1640's "Sense or state of being related" by kindred, affinity, or other alliance. (Etymononline)
-ship: the collective individuals of a group
GOOD #relationships are continually CREATED and CONTRIBUTED to. They also deliver what is NEEDED and WANTED. ❤️
As I look over my life and the types of relationships one can have, there are many. 🧐
One has relationships with their: - husband/wife 🤵👰 - boyfriend/girlfriend 👩❤️💋👨 - children 👩👩👧 - family 👫👫👫👫 - friends (friendship) 👫 - group members (membership) 👭
It would be wise to discuss this with the other person/people in the group to see: - if they agree to create and participate 👩🎨 - what their contribution is 💝 - if it’s needed and wanted by members 🥳
EXAMPLE: I have this church mentor who helps me all the time and the reason she helps me so much is because she delivers what I need. In the beginning of our discussion to have a “relationship” she asked me what was needed and wanted. Then she delivered it! 😍 wow! So simple and yet soooo many before her, did NOT do that. 🤫 They thought THEY KNEW what I needed without asking.
EXAMPLE: I had a previous boyfriend (not the boyfriend in the photo of above) who I thought I had done alllllll the right things with in the beginning before starting the our relationship. We discussed life plans and goals and soooo much agreement. You know what we left out? What role did each of us play, what did each of us want to contribute to the relationship and was that needed and wanted by the other person? Also, if that was agreed (which it wasn’t because we didn’t discuss it) 🤦♀️ did we continue to create it? (Giant learning lesson for the future) 😇
I’m learning in a new unit of time to apply this data more. 👩🎓❤️
I ask people more questions. I’m trying to move away from what do I WANT to give them or what do I THINK they need? ❤️
What do THEY need and want? Have I asked or listened? Do I continually contribute in that way?
I find this has helped me, help others a lot more and have better relationships! ❤️🌍